COUPLES

1 + 1 = 3

Each person is uniquely individual. And, every person is their own brand of uniqueness.

When blended with another person, you begin to define your couple connection.  Yet sometimes, that connection is more of a  dis~connection.

Relationships are not always defined by gender, labels, or expectations. Hiding any relationship can be self-destructive.

Counseling begins to work on what the connection needs to be for both individuals to feel healthy, positive, and loving.

Couples Counseling is about discovering how to be a couple without losing your sense of self.

Our goal is to have two independent persons decide what is best for themselves, their union, and ultimately their family.

 

And sometimes,

we just need  help to sort through struggles of

communication, sexuality, and stress, to understand

the shame, blame, and secrets that are 

 preventing you from having ideal relationships.

 

When Partners are No Longer Friends

It feels like the romance just stopped. Once married, we stopped dating and seeing our friends and the blaming is loud. It feels like the job has become more important than you.  Something is wrong.

Positive Communication Struggles

It seems we either yell and argue or are silent. We cannot have a conversation that is gentle. When one talks, nothing is heard.

Blaming and Holding Secrets

Everything is always my fault. Our conversations are nothing but lies.

Overall Life Stress

I cannot find a place to call home. Someone in my family is always ill, and I am the caretaker. I feel when things go wrong, it is my fault. We have so much financial debt that I cannot sleep. I feel lonely most every night. I feel angry at the world. Nobody seems to like me.

 

Just because you asked...

Working through the struggles in our couplehood can be some of the toughest work we ever do. Having been through divorce myself, I understand the unique pain that comes when a marriage begins to unravel. And after nearly two decades in my current marriage, I also understand the profound gratitude, resilience, and strength that come from a solid and committed partnership.

In couples counseling, we honor both individuals, your histories, your needs, your hurts, and your hopes. From there, we begin sorting through how to create a relationship that works for both of you, not just one.

Couples counseling with me is about each partner having the space to voice what they want their relationship to look and feel like. Listening deeply, respecting each voice, and acknowledging each person’s truth is essential to the process. Together, we then craft the best game plan to move forward, one that supports real connection, real communication, and real change.